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I had the privilege yesterday morning of attending, via Skype, an NLP training session in Bangalore.

One of the delegates at the training asked me: “what’s the difference between emotional intelligence and NLP?”

I was not entirely happy with the clarity of my answer, so I am taking this opportunity to clarify the difference.

Emotional Intelligence affects how we manage behavior, navigate social complexities, and make personal decisions. It is a naturally occurring part of what we are.

NLP is a collection of systems for understanding and programming our behaviour. It is a toolkit that allows us to change and improve the way that we think, feel and behave.

NLP can be used to enhance our emotional intelligence, to improve our behaviour, to better navigate social complexities and to make better personal decisions.

Emotional intelligence was first identified in an effort to understand why people with relatively low IQ scores were able to obtain superior results to those with high IQ scores.

NLP developed as a way of modelling and reproducing the skills of highly competent people.

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