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How Could a Life Coach Help Me?

When something in your life is not working and you can’t find a solution – that’s the time to seek out a good life coach. See – How To Choose a Life Coach.

The issue that could make you seek out a life coach can be anything that’s bothering you. Here are just a few of the issues I deal with constantly:

  • career frustration – can’t earn enough, promotion blocked, poor work environment, no job satisfaction, over-work, want to change career,
  • lack of money
  • redundancy
  • relationship issues, can’t find the right person, can’t get away from the wrong person
  • lack of excitement/boredom
  • the feeling that there must be more to life, but what?

How Can a Life Coach Help?

The difficulty with trying to solve problems on your own is that you keep asking yourself the same questions. And because you keep asking the same questions, guess what, you keep coming up with the same answers.

The result is that you go round in circles and cannot break out – find new solutions.

A good life coach will use their experience to ask you new questions and help you find new, workable solutions.

A good life coach will not turn up with ready-made solutions to your challenges. They will help you to work out your own solutions. The big advantage of this way of working is that you find solutions that you know will work for you.

How Will I Know That the Solution is Any Good?

You will feel the energy and passion for what you are about to do.

My passion is in helping people to create the life they would love to live. The first step in this process is to Discover Your Passion.

The reason why I start with your passion is because it is passion that gives you the self-belief and the energy to create the life you want.

If you’ve ever had a passion for another human being you can remember how your energy levels soared when you though about them, how you couldn’t wait to be with them, how you could not do enough for them. So, you know the power of passion.

Yes, But Will I be Able to Achieve My Goals?

A good life coach is someone who has already achieved many of their own most important life goals. They will be mature and experienced in dealing with lifes vicissitudes. They will have a good track record of having helped others. They will know how to help you Create Your Own Independent Income, or build a successful career, or find the right person. They will have ongoing support programmes to make sure that you achieve what you have set your heart on.

Once you really set your heart on achieving something about which you are passionate it is essential that you succeed. It is not going too far to say that your life depends on it. This is because, as Abraham Maslow said: “to be happy we must become what we can become.” Note, he said “MUST become.”

Why Most People Fail

To be fair, most people don’t fail – they just fail to get started.

Change can feel scary. You might be saying to yourself, “Where I am now might not be everything I would love it to be, but at least I know where I am. I can manage the status quo, so why change anything?”

Look at it this way: imagine that you have reached retirement age. You are sitting in an old peoples home looking back over your life. What do you see? Is it just a picture of years and years of what you’ve got now? Or is it the picture that you sometimes imagine of how you’d love your life to be? A life filled with excitement, adventure, love, challenge, creativity, fulfilment, meaning and prosperity?

The difference between the two pictures is up to you – you are the painter of the picture of your life. What picture do you want to paint?

Helpful links:

Discover Your Passion

How To Create Your Own Regular Income

 

Survey Reveals Formula Used by Millionaires to Make Their Fortunes

Discover the real difference that allows millionaires to make their fortunesIt’s not like you think. They don’t have a “magic touch”. The real differences between us and them are in the way that they think and behave.

First of all, they start in a different place. They don’t go looking for a business or proposition that is guaranteed to make money or that has potential to make money. They start by asking themselves, “what do I enjoy doing, what do I love and what completely absorbs my attention?”

Their Aim is Flow

What they are looking for is an opportunity to work in a state that the Hungarian American psychologist Mihály Csíkszentmihályi calls “Flow”.

“Flow” is completely focused motivation. It is single-minded immersion and represents perhaps the ultimate in harnessing the emotions in the service of performing and learning. In “flow” the emotions are not just contained and channeled, but positive, energised, and aligned with the task at hand. Professor Csíkszentmihályi has carried out studies on thousands of individuals in his search to understand and describe how the state of “flow” enables so many high achievers to reach their goals.

Flow has a strong, documented correlation with performance enhancement. And this is why millionaires, top sports people and others who are high achievers find “flow” so valuable – it enables them to focus all of their energies in a laser-like way on achieving their objectives. Furthermore it allows them to do this with enjoyment.

What The Survey Reveals

Millionaires behave in this way:

  1. They find what they love to do and they then do what they love doing. This gives them a strong sense of purpose. It gives their life meaning. It’s not the money they’re after, but the pure enjoyment of doing what they love. The money comes as a result of their sense of purpose. Their happiness is in the doing, not in the result.
  2. They work with a clear vision of the outcome they want. They work to their own goals, not someone else’s. They concentrate on one task at a time.
  3. They have rituals that they follow in their work. They enjoy their rituals and they use them to get into the state of “flow”. These rituals enable them to be very disciplined. They are happy in their work because they spend so much time in the state of “flow”.

How to Get Into the State of Flow

  • Know what to do
  • Know how to do it
  • Know how well you are doing
  • Notice the challenges
  • Know what skills you need or where to get them
  • Be free from distractions

(Source: DePaul University)

Your Next Step

You need to discover what you love doing. Then you can enjoy being in the state of “flow” and devote all of your energies to what you’re passionate about. This is the essential first step that all high achievers take. It will lead you to your Big Idea – the personal, unique vision on which you can then focus with full attention. A good way to start is to attend one of my regular workshops that are designed to enable you to Discover Your Passion.