Create The Life You Want

Create The Life You Want

How Could a Life Coach Help Me?

When something in your life is not working and you can’t find a solution – that’s the time to seek out a good life coach. See – How To Choose a Life Coach.

The issue that could make you seek out a life coach can be anything that’s bothering you. Here are just a few of the issues I deal with constantly:

  • career frustration – can’t earn enough, promotion blocked, poor work environment, no job satisfaction, over-work, want to change career,
  • lack of money
  • redundancy
  • relationship issues, can’t find the right person, can’t get away from the wrong person
  • lack of excitement/boredom
  • the feeling that there must be more to life, but what?

How Can a Life Coach Help?

The difficulty with trying to solve problems on your own is that you keep asking yourself the same questions. And because you keep asking the same questions, guess what, you keep coming up with the same answers.

The result is that you go round in circles and cannot break out – find new solutions.

A good life coach will use their experience to ask you new questions and help you find new, workable solutions.

A good life coach will not turn up with ready-made solutions to your challenges. They will help you to work out your own solutions. The big advantage of this way of working is that you find solutions that you know will work for you.

How Will I Know That the Solution is Any Good?

You will feel the energy and passion for what you are about to do.

My passion is in helping people to create the life they would love to live. The first step in this process is to Discover Your Passion.

The reason why I start with your passion is because it is passion that gives you the self-belief and the energy to create the life you want.

If you’ve ever had a passion for another human being you can remember how your energy levels soared when you though about them, how you couldn’t wait to be with them, how you could not do enough for them. So, you know the power of passion.

Yes, But Will I be Able to Achieve My Goals?

A good life coach is someone who has already achieved many of their own most important life goals. They will be mature and experienced in dealing with lifes vicissitudes. They will have a good track record of having helped others. They will know how to help you Create Your Own Independent Income, or build a successful career, or find the right person. They will have ongoing support programmes to make sure that you achieve what you have set your heart on.

Once you really set your heart on achieving something about which you are passionate it is essential that you succeed. It is not going too far to say that your life depends on it. This is because, as Abraham Maslow said: “to be happy we must become what we can become.” Note, he said “MUST become.”

Why Most People Fail

To be fair, most people don’t fail – they just fail to get started.

Change can feel scary. You might be saying to yourself, “Where I am now might not be everything I would love it to be, but at least I know where I am. I can manage the status quo, so why change anything?”

Look at it this way: imagine that you have reached retirement age. You are sitting in an old peoples home looking back over your life. What do you see? Is it just a picture of years and years of what you’ve got now? Or is it the picture that you sometimes imagine of how you’d love your life to be? A life filled with excitement, adventure, love, challenge, creativity, fulfilment, meaning and prosperity?

The difference between the two pictures is up to you – you are the painter of the picture of your life. What picture do you want to paint?

Helpful links:

Discover Your Passion

How To Create Your Own Regular Income


What is the Best Way to Choose a Life Coach

It is critical that you choose the right life coach. The coach who is right for you. The one who will help you find your own workable solutions to the issues that you have. Here are the questions you should ask of any coach who you are considering:

  • What experience do you have of dealing with issues like mine?
  • Please may I see what previous clients say about you?
  • Where and when can you meet me? (Consider online video conferencing. It works really well.)
  • Tell me something about your life? (This is to check out compatibility.)
  • Tell me a bit about your career? (This is to check how successful they have been in their own life.)
  • Tell me something about your lifestyle? (This is to check compatibility.)

Other questions that really matter:

  • How many sessions will it take to deal with an issue like mine. (Do not agree to an open-ended contract. Better to agree a set number of sessions which can end at any time by mutual agreement.)
  • Do you do all 1-2-1 sessions or do you do group coaching?
  • What do you see as the advantages of 1-2-1? (Mainly more acute focus on you and confidentiality.)
  • What do you see as the advantages of group coaching? (Less expensive, you learn from others, you learn by coaching others – all provided group coaching is not a “tell you” session but a genuine “tease the best answer for you out of you.”)
  • Where do you conduct your group coaching sessions?
  • What qualifications do you have? (Bear in mind what Albert Einstein said: “Any fool can know. The point is to understand.” Qualifications are not as important as relevant experience.)

A crucial point:

  • Do you feel relaxed and comfortable with this person?
  • Do you have confidence in this coach?
  • Do you feel that they will challenge?
  • Do you feel that they can dig up what you are really passionate about that will revolutionise your life?
  • Do you feel that they will be able to make your passion into a way to live the life you’d love to live?

Do I fit your bill?

Check out my bio.

Check out my Discover Your Passion workshop.