Have you ever asked yourself why people react the way they do? Have you ever wondered what causes people to react instead of responding? Are you one of those people? If so, that habit probably started at a very early age.
It seems as though people have never practiced being “self-aware”. Let me put it this way;
My five year old is now at the stage where he is repeating word for word what I say. Although this can be quite trying on the nerves, it actually got me thinking that everything I say and do has great influence on how he behaves. As children our parents are our biggest influencers.
When I was a child I grew up in a house of “reactors”. As a family we were strong Irish opinionated east coasters. Good people, not so good communicators. We were loud and very outspoken, it was perfectly acceptable to say what was on your mind at that very moment without a thought. When I grew up and started working I found that way didn’t work for me. It has taken me years to develop a new habit of being self-aware and to respond to my situations accordingly.
This is in no way bashing how I grew up, and to this day I still enjoy banter with my family and appreciate how we function when we are together. But by developing my new habit, I have become more effective in my communications in my professional life. It’s a work in progress and I am getting better every day.