Leadership Development

Leadership Development

Leadership Starts at Home

Have you ever asked yourself why people react the way they do? Have you ever wondered what causes people to react instead of responding? Are you one of those people? If so, that habit probably started at a very early age.

It seems as though people have never practiced being “self-aware”. Let me put it this way;

My five year old is now at the stage where he is repeating word for word what I say. Although this can be quite trying on the nerves, it actually got me thinking that everything I say and do has great influence on how he behaves. As children our parents are our biggest influencers.

My Background

When I was a child I grew up in a house of “reactors”. As a family we were strong Irish opinionated east coasters. Good people, not so good communicators. We were loud and very outspoken, it was perfectly acceptable to say what was on your mind at that very moment without a thought. When I grew up and started working I found that way didn’t work for me. It has taken me years to develop a new habit of being self-aware and to respond to my situations accordingly.

This is in no way bashing how I grew up, and to this day I still enjoy banter with my family and appreciate how we function when we are together. But by developing my new habit, I have become more effective in my communications in my professional life. It’s a work in progress and I am getting better every day.


How I Came To Write Ignite Your Inner Leader

The urge to write started when I was still at school. It has been with me all my life. I have blogged for several years and I have written a few, unpublished novels. So I have a history of putting pen to paper.

For the past few years I have been very busy developing leaders via my coaching practice. However, one thing has become clear in my conversations with leaders at all levels of business – leaders are readers. So I wanted to give them my wisdom.

But it is also clear to anyone who talks a lot to business people that there are huge numbers of business books out there that have never been finished. I mean that people seem to reach a stage where the book just bores them and they stop reading.

So, when I started to think about writing my book I determined to address the problem of “reader boredom”. The obvious answer is to fill your book with relevant stories – teaching lessons.

For me it didn’t turn out that way. I got so engrossed in developing my characters and my plot and weaving leadership lessons into my story that it developed a life of its own and became a full-blown novel.

As a writing discipline I aim for a minimum of two thousand words a day. Some days I write four to five thousand words, but in this case I had days when I just sat at my desk thinking about where I was going. This was not what I understand as being “writers block”. It was more like my brain needed time to process what had happened to my characters and to create the next stage of the book.

Now the next stage of the adventure begins: will anyone read my book? Will anyone buy it? Will they like it? The signs are good so far, but it is early days.