You know it can be difficult to make any major change in your life. Changes like giving up smoking or losing weight require a lot of self discipline. But, is there a moment when it is better to take the decision to make these major changes? Well of course you have already guessed, with NLP [...]
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The question here is are you inside of your body or outside of it – associated inside yourself or dissociated outside of yourself? This can happen when you are talking to someone or when you are at an event, in a meeting or even when you are making a presentation. You may well have had [...]
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The way we value the feedback we get tells us whether we are internally or externally referenced. People who are internally referenced will be happy feeling good inside and telling themselves, “I did that well”, when they have completed a job. However, people who are externally referenced will need feedback from outside to reassure them [...]
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One of the important discoveries that NLP has made is part of the Milton Model. Hypnotherapist Milton Erickson was one of the first people modelled by John Grinder and Richard Bandler when they were learning the patterns of influence that was to turn into NLP. One of the early discoveries was that people look for the [...]
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You may have noticed that when you ask someone: “why did you do that?” it has the effect of closing them up, making them behave defensively. Such questions do not help you to get to a solution, they simply make people feel bad, possibly guilty. On the other hand if you need to find out [...]
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Sue Knight says: “Beliefs are emotionally held opinions which we treat as facts. They are the basis of our everyday decisions, skills and behaviours”. That seems about right to me. I subscribe to the NLP Presupposition that beliefs influence our actions every moment of every day. So, if the meaning of the paragraph above strikes [...]
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Now that you have broken state, analysed the situation, set a well-formed objective and developed a strategy for solving your problem, what’s next? Feedback. This is a good time to check whether you are about to set off in the right direction. Does it not make sense to check with your mentor or your business [...]
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So now you have broken state, analysed the situation carefully and thoroughly and created a well-formed outcome. The next step is to devise the route by which you will reach your objective. The question to ask yourself is: “how are we going to get there?” At this stage it is often a good idea to [...]
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OK, so you have now broken state and you are ready to get to grips with the crisis. The first thing you need to do is to make sure that you fully and clearly understand exactly what is going on. The oil rig worker who stepped out into the night to take a photograph thought [...]
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It seems highly likely that the oil rig worker who stepped out into the night to take a photo of the lightening was stunned to find it lighting up a fast-approaching tornado. Even in such a moment of panic the first step of a good manager should be to “break state”. This is one of [...]
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