Here’s an NLP Technique That Can Turn a Bad Day Into a Good One
The good news is that there are NLP techniques that can enable you to change anything you want in your life. There is no day that is so bad that it cannot be changed around and made into a good day, if you just go about it in the right way.
You know what it’s like when you are having a really bad day. From the very start nothing seems to go right. You tear your shirt when you are getting dressed. The car won’t start. There are traffic jams on the road when you are in a hurry to get to a meeting. Your train is cancelled. When you at last get to your office you spill your coffee all over your desk. You are late for your first meeting and your boss glares at you making you feel uncomfortable. Then you find that you have forgotten to bring the presentation you are supposed to be making to the meeting.
So it goes on, and on, all through the day. It seems that you just flounder from one crisis to the next. Nothing will go right.
One of the ways that I learned how to cope with catastrophic days was to compare my situation with the worst possible situation that I could think of. I thought about the Jewish prisoners in concentration camps. How bad must that have been? Completely out of control, starving, cold, in danger of imminent death. How did they cope?
The stories of the survivors always mentions that they did not give up hope. But how do you do that? How do you not give up hope when everything looks hopeless? The answer is that you must take control of the one area of your being that is totally yours, totally under your control no matter what is going on around you, no matter how hopeless your situation seems. The answer is that you must win control of your mind and make it do what you want it to do.
The technique for winning back control of your mind when everything seems hopelessly out of control is to start by “breaking state”. In other words the first thing you must do is – do something different; something that will break the chain of helplessness. Get up from your desk and go for a walk, even if it’s only to the coffee machine. Make a phone call. Plan your evening. Stand up and wave your arms around. Whatever it takes, do something that will force you to stop thinking about all the problems you are facing.
Then start again – do one thing at a time to get some success under your belt. Then do something else that will be a win for you. Then something else until you have a whole collection of wins that will make you feel good.