How can tell what’s going on in a person’s mind?
One way is by watching their eye movements. The chart below will help you to get some idea.
Ask the person you are speaking to a question and watch the direction in which their eyes move.
If they go point up and to your left they are constructing a picture (visual) of their answer. They are inventing, maybe not telling the truth.
If they point up and to your right they are looking (visual) for a memory or remembering.
If they look out sideways to your left they are trying their answer out (constructing) to see how it sounds, possibly inventing an answer.
If they look sideways to your right they are trying to remember what something sounded like.
If they look down to your left they are experiencing feelings Kinaesthetic.
I would only recommend that you use these eye accessing cues to give you an idea of what might be going on in the speaker’s mind. Ask more questions to get the speaker to reveal what is really going on.
Beware, left handed people often cue the other way.
Ambidextrous must be a nightmare. Don’t bother with this technique.
Your Own Eye Accessing Cues
Your own eyes work in a mirror image of the person opposite you like this:
When you’re remembering your eyes will point up and to your left you are looking (visual) for a memory or remembering.
When you are trying to recall a sound, maybe a tune or a conversation you will tend to look sideways to your left.
When you’re constructing your eyes will point up and to your right. You are inventing, being creative maybe not telling the truth.
When you are chatting to yourself and trying to invent an answer, maybe asking yourself, “how would this sound?” you will tend to look sideways to your right. You are trying your answer out (constructing) to see how it sounds, possibly inventing an answer.
When you are trying to experience or recall feelings you will tend to look down to your right. This is the feelings or kinaesthetic eye movement.
Try watching and making yourself aware of your own eye movements as you go about your daily life thinking, remembering and talking to other people.
Once you have mastered eye movements they will provide you with useful clues as to what is going on in another person’s mind.
