Use Self-observation to To Make Yourself Stronger

Self-observation allows you to be aware of what you are thinking, feeling and doing from moment to moment.

When you observe what’s going on inside you can ask yourself: “does thinking like this help me or hinder me?” or “Does holding this feeling make me stronger or weaker?” or “Is this behaviour in line with my Beliefs or my Values?”

In order to improve any part of who you are you need to first observe what you are doing right now. You need to notice when you get annoyed, or when you act before thinking, or when your mind just “goes blank”. These are often clues to where you lose power and possibly hand the initiative to others.

What Causes Poor or Weak Behaviour?

Are your poor or weak thoughts part of a pattern of thinking that you use to excuse yourself for a lack of progress? Are your weak feelings and reactions caused by something that someone else does? Is your weak behaviour one of your habits? Is there a particular event that causes you to behave in a way that is weak, inappropriate or which demeans you?

Human beings are creatures of habit. Habits are good when they save us time by enabling us to act without having to think. For instance you have a habit of cleaning your teeth every morning; you don’t have to think about when to clean your teeth or how to do it, it just happens.

Habits can also weaken our performance when you just react in a certain way on autopilot. You may have developed the habit of worrying when you think about your finances. Certain types of people may make you feel nervous. You may feel anxious when speaking in front of large numbers of people. But any of these reactions are just the result of you repeatedly behaving in the same way, without consciously thinking about what you are doing.

The good news is that you can use self-observation to change weak habits and develop better ways of thinking and being.

How Self-observation Helps You Improve Your Performance

The first step is to develop the habit of self-observation. You need to notice what you are thinking, feeling and doing from moment to moment. Your aim is to be self-aware all of the time so that you can notice those behaviours that weaken your behaviour or diminish your reputation.

The second step, once you have noticed a weakening thought or behaviour is to ask yourself, “What value or belief do I have to hold in this situation in order to improve my performance?”

The third step is to start thinking or behaving in a way that is true to the value that you have decided will improve your performance.

Now would be a good time to review your values and reaffirm that you want to always behave in ways that are congruent with your values.

How to Achieve What You Want

The secret to achieving what you want is to think and behave in ways that are congruent with who you are. When you do this you will feel comfortable about achieving what you want in life. Start following the procedures outlined in this blog post to start making yourself into the person you’d love to be and creating the life you’d love to live.

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